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What's it like to be an Identical Twin?

Pour yourself a cup of coffee or tea and let us chat about the obvious question.

What's it like to be an identical twins?

I can rattle off lots of entertaining facts like - as a kid I had a built-in friend, we share our birthdays; we wore the same clothes for the longest time, and we liked similar activities. We were talented athletes, and I assume the competition between us helped that along. There are many things that twins experience that most individuals do not.

Who was born first?

When we were born, I wore bracelet A, and my twin wore bracelet B. The bracelet A meant I was born first. To be exact, it was one minute earlier than my twin. That is a common question from onlookers–who was born first? And boy, I loved answering that question with a great big smile, “Me, I was born first”. We were identical in so many ways–at least on the surface. I think we defined “Double Trouble”–and I say that with a smile on my face too. We were good kids with a lot of energy. The biggest thing we would get in trouble for was sitting in the same chair and giggling to the point it annoyed everyone. We loved to laugh together. So many fun aspects of being a twin. My Mom may disagree with you as she had three kids close in age. :)

What's innate to twins?

As an adult, I think I am built for relationships as I learned how to share, to communicate, and to compromise with another individual my entire life. My communications skills are excellent. It is a twin thing! Singletons do not grow up chatting to someone all day long like me. :)

Being a twin is a gift, and most people do not understand the nuances to being a twin.

I say this lightly, do not compare twins!

I can emphasize that when people compare us, that gets negative for one of us. Questions like who is smarter, who is more athletic, who is the bad one? This to me implies silliness. My recommendation to the person asking the questions, pause for a second before asking such questions. People blurt out without thinking about how it may be hurtful to one twin. Keep in mind we are individuals like everyone else, as there are many differences and similarities amongst identical twins.